ABOUT STRESS
Harry L. Mills, Ph.D.
One of the chracteristics of aging is stress. There are changes that seem
increasingly unpredictable and health concerns not present earlier in life. However, the best way to cope with that is to
start with a better understanding of stress and its nature.
NATURE OF STRESS
Stress can
add excitement to your life or it can become the bane of your existence. Whether it is the one or the other depends on the
source of stress and on you. Any event that makes a demand for a response that may exceed your capacity may be experienced
as a source of stress. These range from daily hassles, like the commute to work, or a dysfunctional cell phone, to the pain
of a cancer. Most people handle daily hassles with ease, but almost anyone can become overwhelmed by the pain of cancer. Most
people can manage to cope with a fender bender but those same people will find being shot at in a war a significant challenge.
However, even daily hassles can sum in a way to become a challenge in a vulnerable person. How vulnerable we are depends on
a number of things, including skills that can be learned.
Selye and
the GAS
The father of the modern scientific
concept of stress was an immigrant physiologist named Dr. Hans Selye. While studying the physical
reaction of the body to disturbances, he found a pattern that seemed to occur over and over. The body undergoes a generalized
physiological response as it tries to adapt to the demands and pressures and he called that response the General Adaptation
Syndrome or GAS. The first step is the initial alarm reaction followed by resistance, as the body tries to adapt and, if the
disturbance continues, a final stage of exhaustion sets in. He labeled the response the body makes to any demand that is taxing
as stress and coined another word, stressor, to describe the events that produce the stress reaction.
To Selye stress is part of life. If you are alive,
you have it. It is neither good or bad. Stress just is. You cannot hide from it. Trying to avoid it can lead to boredom which
in it self is a stressor. However, Selye was a pioneer in pointing out that stress could result
in diseases of adaptation. In the 1950s that was a revolutionary notion. Germs were viewed as the cause of disease. Selye pointed out that stress could weaken resistance and thus make it more likely a germ would lead
to disease. Much later researchers actually injected cold germs into the nostrils of groups of subjects under high stress
levels and groups under no significant stress. Guess who caught the colds? The subjects under stress.
Hans Selye was right.
Biology and Psychology of Stress
We are built to respond to stress. However, we are designed for a different
kind of stress than the type that we experience in our modern technological society. Our bodies are the same as it was
for our prehistoric ancestors, but the world has changed greatly over during that same period. We have the same automatic
reaction that our tribal ancestors possessed. We are "wired" to respond to threats with what physiologists
call the fight-or-flight response. If we encounter a rattle snake while hiking along a trail our bodies
prepare us to react by either trying to kill the snake or trying to get away from the dangerous situation. Our nervous
system orchestrates these changes to prepare for either event:
Digestion
slows so blood may be directed to muscles and the brain in preparation for trying to avoid and get away from the snake.
Breathing gets faster
to supply more oxygen to muscles to speed our movement.
The heart speeds up and blood pressure soars forcing blood
to the parts of the body that enable you to fight or run..
Perspiration increases to cool the body while we exert ourselves.
Muscles tense in preparation
for jumping away and running.
- Chemicals
are released to promote blood-clotting in case of injury.
Sugars and fats are poured into the blood to provide fuel
for quick energy as you try to kill the snake or avoid contact with it.
Psychologists who conduct research on stress say there are three basic ways we respond to stress:
(1) we fight; (2) we flee; or, (3) we freeze. Fighting is the power response, we try to influence the source of stress
by attack or counter attack. Sometimes it is better to escape--to run away and fight another day. When the threat
is overwhelming, flight may be the wiser option. When fighting or running is not appropriate we may simply freeze.
In sports this is called choking.
The flight-or-fight response is an automatic alarm. How we respond, when the alarm sounds is
critical to health and happiness. We may fall into mindless reactions that become a destructive, vicious cycle.
External events of biological, social, physical or economic origin impinge on us from outside our bodies. These events
may be highly predictable or they may be unpredictable. These lead to activation of changes in your nervous system,
as well as your cardiovascular, musculoskeletal, immune and digestive systems.
However, we are not mechanical robots. Our response to stress is not hard wired.
In over 30 years of research Dr. Richard Lazarus at University of California at Berkley found that it is our lightening fast appraisal of the nature of the environmental
event that determines whether we experience stress. That appraisal has two components. First we ask is this event a threat
to me? Then we ask, do I have the resources to cope with it? If the event threatens our well-being
or exceeds our ability to respond then we experience psychological stress.
If events are appraised as threatening, the changes in the body come about because of the activation
of a particular branch of the autonomic nervous system (ANS). This branch is called the sympathetic
nervous system (SNS), and it functions to prepare us for action. The other branch, called the parasympathetic
nervous system (PNS) acts as a brake. Its function is to slow things down -- to calm the body. The hypothalamus,
a master control switch, controls the activity of both branches.
The opposing functions of the two branches
is summarized in these functions:
One dilates the pupils while the other constricts the pupil
One inhibits salivation
while the other stimulates salivation
One accelerates heartbeat while the other slows heartbeat
One inhibits digestion
while the other stimulates digestion
It is the SNS that kicks into action in situations you find threatening.
It serves the goals of vigilance, arousal, activation and mobilization. The PNS provides for body maintenance.
It promotes growth, energy storage and other activities important for longer term survival.
Hormones, called glucocorticosteriods, provide
the chemical basis for the fight- or- flight response. At the same time both the pituitary and the brain secrete a class
of morphine like substances called endorphins and enkephalins
which help blunt pain perception and make us feel very, very good!
The hypothalamus is part of a region in the brain called the
limbic system and it is the limbic system that is thought of as the seat of our emotions. There are
complex interconnections between the limbic system and the higher cortical centers, where we do our thinking and problem solving,
as well as, the endocrine system and our musculoskeletal system. Mobilization of our response to stress involves magnificent
orchestration of all of these systems. The way we have learned to think is part of the process and the way we feel is
intimately involved. How we think depends on whether the stress leads to an abbreviated event that is quickly over and done
with or whether the experience lasts and is replayed over and over in our minds.
It is useful to view stress as having four stages:
Stage 1- Environmental demand
Stage 2- Perception or appraisal of the demand
Stage 3- Physical and psychological response to stress
Stage 4- Behavioral consequence or performance
An event in the environment makes a demand on the
person. That demand is not automatically a source of stress unless the person views the event as a threat or that an adequate
response may stretch the capacity of the person. In Stage 3 the body may show signs of increased tension and arousal (e.g.
increased heart rate, perspiration, rapid breathing) and a flood of thoughts. Finally the person acts in a way that may either
reduce the level of tension or increase it further, and the cycle renews at Stage 1. If the behavior succeeds in meeting the
demand, the person will approach similar demands in the future with greater confidence. Learning is very important in determining
our response to stress.
HEALTH RISK OF STRESS
There is growing evidence that stress is a major factor in maintaining health and well-being. Health
means more than the absence of illness. In China and in ancient Greece health was thought
of as being in balance with nature. The vital task was seen as maintaining equilibrium in the face of extensive demands.
The World Health Organization (WHO) definition of health is a state of complete physical, mental and social well being.
It seems increasingly clear that the naive
notion that a germ automatically leads to illness is no longer acceptable, although much of the lay public subscribes to the
theory. Today we know that the idea of a single external cause, such as a germ, is oversimplified. The presence of the germ
does not always cause the illness. The vulnerability of the person or the host animal is a major factor and that vulnerability
is influenced by such factors as immunity and stress levels. So the cause of illness is not quite as simple as we once thought.
Stress vs. Distress
Another important distinction that came out of the seminal work of Hans Selye is between stress and distress. Both involve demands on the person to adapt to a challenging event.
However, when we appraise the situation as being something we can handle it can be an exhilarating experience. When a person
appraises the event as beyond their ability or as exceeding resources the situation is experienced as distress. Another way
to look at it is that stress is positive and distress is negative. It is a valuable distinction since many people believe
all stress is bad for you. It is not.
The
diathesis-stress theory
The diathesis-stress
theory of the origin of certain illnesses holds that we are born with certain biological predispositions but that whether
or not an illness manifests itself is dependent on the level of stress one experiences and the resources one can use to overcome
the stress. For example, although a person may have inherited a genetic deficiency in metabolizing alcohol, whether that person
becomes an alcoholic or not also depends on the types and levels of stress they experience. Another person may have inherited
a problem with glucose metabolism; however, it is factors such as the level of stress, or a sedentary life style or a combination
of the two that result in development of type 2 diabetes. We may be born with certain vulnerabilities; it is stress that tips
us into active illness.
Impact of stress on
illnesses
Certain ailments have been recognized
for some time as being influenced by stress. The most common example is intestinal distress such as indigestion and
colitis. Other disorders like migraine, tension headaches, high blood pressure, arthritis and certain skin disorders may also
be influenced by stress. In some instances, stress emotions seem to make an ailment worse, while in others stress may
be a factor in bringing on illness. Research increasingly supports the hypothesis that stress may have at least some impact
on many diseases.
There are several reasons for believing
that stress contributes to the development of cardiovascular disease. First, stress emotions increase the level of low-density
blood cholesterol and this leads to clogging of the arteries of the heart. Second, stress emotions result in maladaptive
coping behaviors such as smoking, drinking and overeating, which can damage the heart and surrounding vessels. Finally,
stress emotions result in the release of powerful hormones which result in increases in heart rate and blood pressure. One
of these stress emotions is anger, and anger expressed in the form of hostility is known to increase the risk of cardiovascular
disease.
Several hypotheses
are being explored in the role of emotions in cancer. Again stress emotions may play an indirect role leading the person
to smoke or drink excessively. More direct influence is attributed to a tendency to suppress or deny emotions.
There is some evidence that those who suppress emotions are more susceptible to cancer. Again the mediating factor is
hormonal activity.
At the 2002 meeting of the
American Psychological Association a group-based stress management study was presented that indicated that group stress management
training could lower blood glucose levels in Type 2 diabetes. Patients that received instruction regarding the health consequences
of stress and instruction in the use of cognitive and behavioral skills such as deep breathing and recognition of major life
stresses as well as instruction in progressive muscle relaxation lowered their glucose levels more than patients that did
not have stress management training. Thirty-two percent of the patients receiving stress management lowered their A1C glucose
levels by one percent or more as compared to 12% of the patients who did not receive this training. This modest change is
larger than the half percent change that has been associated with significant reduction in microvasclar
complications that can accompany out of control diabetes. While this change might move someone with tightly controlled diabetes
to near normal levels; even those diabetics with poorer control would benefit from the reduction in glucose levels with fewer
diabetic complications.
In summary, if you are a
type 2 diabetic, learning to manage stress should have special health consequences for you. Although this was a group program,
if none is available in your area, individual stress reduction strategies should be beneficial, especially if you have a friend
or family member trying to learn stress management with you.
Stress and the immune system
The immune system has been called our liquid nervous system. With our growing knowledge
of the human body has come an increasing conviction that stress may be a factor in susceptibility to colds, flu, mononucleosis
and other infectious illnesses. It appears that some of the hormones secreted in the presence of stress emotions impair
or weaken the immune process by reducing the number of disease-fighting components such as lymphocytes (white cells) thus
leaving us more vulnerable to infection. This may be one of the reasons why so many people die within a year or so of
their spouse's death. Recently there has been research into why some HIV positive patients develop full blown AIDS
while others do not. One interesting finding is that patients with a more effective style of coping with stress seem
to have stronger resistance as a result. It is now reasonable to hypothesize that stress emotions increase secretion
of certain hormones. These hormones weaken the immune system and that weakness results in an increased likelihood of
infectious illness.
Recent research indicates
that brief time-limited stress that may be viewed as a challenge (e.g. passing an exam, good performance in sports, solving
a difficult puzzle under pressure) may actually enhance the body’s immune response. However, chronic stress seems to
reduce the effectiveness of the immune system and thus make the person more susceptible to diseases.
LESSONS FROM SPORTS PERFORMANCE
Sports teach us many valuable
lessons about the relationship between stress and performance that we can apply to other aspects of our lives. On one hand
brief, time or event-limited stress can be beneficial, while on the other hand, chronic, excessive stress can be very detrimental.
Learning how to determine which type of stress we are experiencing is a valuable skill indeed.
Participation in sports challenges the body and mind which creates stress. Anyone that thinks
there are no mental aspects to sports activities has obviously not participated in competitive athletic endeavors. Whether
it is learning plays or making decisions about pacing oneself during a race, or trying to figure out the complexities of making
an uphill putt in the wind on a fast green, sports require considerable mental concentration. Fortunately most of the stress
caused by sports falls in the form of eustress, which is good stress as opposed to distress, which
is bad stress.
Our response to significant demands
is the body’s fight or flight response. We become aroused to action. Heart rate increases to send more blood to muscles,
we breathe more rapidly to make the blood richer in oxygen, we perspire to cool our bodies, we spill blood sugars to give
us energy and our attention becomes more focused. It is this arousal to action that is one of the keys to performance. A certain
level of arousal seems to enhance performance. But after a certain point there are diminishing returns and eventually performance
declines. Stress leads to arousal and arousal levels have a major impact on performance.
For many years psychologists believed that the impact of stress on performance was like an upside
down U. Stress leads to arousal and that improved performance initially, then it leveled off and at very high levels of stress
performance declines. However, psychologists who study sports have learned that the upside down U does not always apply. For
simple activities like sprinting a hundred yards, stress seems to improve performance longer, before a decline sets in. On
the other hand for complex activities like swinging a golf club stress results in a much earlier decline in performance. Another
dimension is how well learned the activity may be. Golfers who practice their swings a lot will get more of a performance
boost than the new golfer who falls apart even under minimal stress and arousal (e.g. on the first tee when people are watching).
Put the two together and it seems the best way to be sure to get a boost from stress is to practice the activity frequently.
More recently Sports Psychologists have discovered
that there are zones of optimal performance under stress that vary from individual to individual. A lot seems to depend on
the level of anxiety a person brings to the performance. Anxiety is anticipation. We have more anxiety when we anticipate
a negative performance outcome. While most of us worry about the possibility of failure, some of us worry more than others.
Excessive worry intensifies our level of anxiety while we are participating in the sports activity. In other words some of
us begin the task with more arousal, even before the performance begins. If you begin the performance with high arousal you
will quickly reach your optimal zone and your performance will begin to decline sooner than if you begin with low levels of
arousal. If you start out with relatively low levels of arousal and respond to the pressures and cues of intense competition
by getting pumped up, you will achieve optimal zones of performance at critical times. In fact, people who worry may actually
do better initially but they are not able to maintain peak levels and their performance deteriorates very, very rapidly.
Stress also influences performance through attentional focus. For sports activity
with a significant mental component, the effects of stress can be catastrophic. The body’s natural stress response is
to narrow the focus of attention to better attend to a threat. That is great if the stressor is a bear and the response is
a simple one like climbing a tree or running. Understanding this mechanism is important. A quarterback dropping back for a
pass must be tense enough to focus on the patterns being run, but if too aroused, his focus will become too narrow and instead
of seeing an open receiver not planned in the play he only sees the runner who is exactly where he expected. Interception
and touchdown. When there is too little stress or arousal the attentional field is too broad and there is too little focus.
Too much and the field is too narrow; options are missed.
There
is no better illustration of the effect of stress on sports performance than in golf. What could be more stressful than making
a putt with a million dollars at stake? Is there any movement in sports more complicated than a golfer’s swing? A certain
level of stress and arousal helps to sharpen attentional focus. However, since the fine motor movements are so complex performance
rapidly declines as stress and tension increases. The key is learning to control tension levels by becoming an expert at relaxation.
The other key seems to be practice, practice and more practice with the swing. It must be overlearned
so that the boost from stress will last longer and performance will decline more slowly.
Stress can be a friend or an enemy in sports. The more you know about it the more likely you can
make it your ally.
METHODS OF STRESS REDUCTION
Self-soothing strategies
One of the most important methods of managing stress is to develop your capacity to calm yourself
down and remove yourself emotionally from stressful events. In this section we will describe many of the methods you can use
for soothing yourself such as constructive thinking, relaxation, deep breathing, meditation, auto-hypnosis, exercise and yoga,
massage, vacationing, getting into the natural world, time management and making time for the simple joys of living.
One of the most important
of all methods is humor. Norman Cousins, who was editor of the Saturday Evening Post, was diagnosed with a debilitating
disease. However, Norman Cousins refused to surrender to his illness. Rather than accept the sterile and cold atmosphere of
the hospital in which he was confined, he had favorite comedy films and humorous books brought to him. He not only recovered
but went on to be appointed to the faculty of UCLA medical school where he taught medical students about the "laughter
cure."
Dr. Lee S. Birk of Loma Linda University conducted a study of two groups. One watched an hour-long humorous video and the other a neutral
video. After the session the presence of several hormones known to increase during the classical stress response were measured.
The levels were significantly lower for those exposed to the humorous video.
Research suggests you are less affected by stress if you use
humor in your daily life. There are three mechanisms that explain this:
Humor gives you a break from stress.
Humor replenishes your emotional resources.
Humor sustains you
so that you are better able to persist.
As you are reading this, smile. Let a full facial smile creep across your face.
If you need to think of something funny then do so. But smile! Now how do you feel? To help you start to
involve humor in your everyday life, collect cartoons, obtain funny videos, keep a notebook of funny jokes and try to be around
other people who can laugh.
Humor is one of the best ways to sooth away the stress of life.
Cognitive distortions
Much of human suffering
is a product of cognitive distortions. By learning more about the common kinds of distortions, we can learn to think
more constructively and reduce suffering. Much of what we have learned about such matters has been based on the work
of psychiatrist Aaron Beck. The following types of distortions are harmful:
Catastrophizing - involves expecting disaster even though evidence does not support such a judgment. We expect
the worst will happen.
Personalization - involves thinking that everything
people say or do is some kind of reaction to you. We must remember that there are other people in the world.
Filtering - means distorting or filtering out
information that is not based on our mindless bias. We must be careful to look at the entire situation before we leap
to conclusions based on a single element of a situation.
Polarized thinking - involves seeing things as black or white,
good or bad. There is no middle ground. We need to try not to label people, or situations as either all good or all
bad.
Overgeneralization - involves coming to a general conclusion based on a single piece of evidence. We need to try not
to jump to conclusions.
Mind reading - involves inferring what is going on in the mind of another and then acting on it. We have a hard
time reading our own minds much less reading the minds of others.
Control fallacies - involves seeing oneself as a helpless victim
of fate or that you are responsible for the "happiness" or "suffering" of people around you when in fact
it is not under your control. We are responsible for how we choose to let ourselves view the world: a pessimistic outlook
robs us of the energy we need to make changes in order to deal with what is happening to us. Try to find the positives in
difficult situations. While we have the ability to empathize and be emotionally supportive of people around us, we cannot
make everything better for everybody all the time. Do the best you can and then let it go.
Fallacy of
change - involves the belief that others will change because we want
them to do so. What we want has little to do with what others do.
Blaming - involves making someone else responsible for choices and decisions that are your own responsibility. Assuming responsibility
for your choices and decisions opens the door for productive changes.
Emotional reasoning - involves believing that what you feel must
be true. If you feel stupid you must be stupid. Because you feel it, it must be true. If you make a mistake and feel
foolish for having done so, you are not stupid. You only made a mistake—like we all do. Try not to ruminate but think
what you might do next time to prevent a recurrence.
Learn to challenge the distorted thoughts that amplify the effects
of stress. Many people find if useful to keep a diary of irrational thoughts for a week. Try to record the situations in which
you find yourself using any of these cognitive distortions. At the end of the week count them. Now look at the categories.
Do you tend to catastrophize? Are you a blamer? Do you tend to personalize things that happen?
Learning more about how you think can be a major step in managing stress better.
Dr. Herbert Benson, a Harvard cardiologist, has made a study
of the counterbalancing mechanisms of the body's stress reaction. He discovered that while the fight-or-flight response
is part of the hard wired response to stress, there is an opposite response, he called the relaxation response.
The relaxation response causes the body to calm itself. Metabolism decreases, heart rate decreases, blood pressure decreases,
breathing rate decreases and muscle tension decreases. Dr. Benson has discovered that the relaxation response can be
elicited by a number of techniques including:
Those who elicit the relaxation response regularly,
such as on a daily basis, report these kinds of changes:
Improved sleep
Decrease in stress-related symptoms
Decrease in anxiety
Increase in concentration and awareness
Greater self-acceptance
Enhanced performance and efficiency.
Freedom from compulsive worrying, self- criticism, negative thoughts
There are the basic steps
in learning to elicit the relaxation response:
A mental focusing device, such as attending to your breathing, or repeating
a word, phrase, prayer, sound, to help you shift your mind from everyday worries. He suggest you use the word ‘one’
or ‘calm’ as your device.
Gently direct your mind back to your mental or physical relaxation exercise
when you notice yourself getting caught up in a train of thought. Keep a passive attitude toward distractions.
The basic steps necessary
to elicit the relaxation response are:
Step 1: Pick a focus word, phrase, image, or prayer.
Step 2: Sit quietly
in a comfortable position.
Step 3: Close your eyes.
Step 4: Relax your muscles.
Step 5: Breathe slowly
and naturally, and as you do, repeat your focus word or phrase as you exhale.
Step 6: Do not worry about how well
you are doing. When other thoughts come to mind, simply say to yourself, "Oh well," and gently return to the
repetition.
Step 7: Continue for ten to twenty minutes.
Deep breathing is the body’s natural way to relax. We seem
to know how to breathe as children but as we grow up, we forget. We tend to breathe in a very shallow way in the upper part
of the chest. Try this exercise:
Lie down on a bed or on the floor. Bend your knees and relax your toes. Keep your spine straight. If need be put a small
pillow under your lower back for support. Scan your body for tension. Imaging the tension just draining away. Place on hand on your abdomen and one on your chest.
Inhale slowly and deeply. Notice which hand moves the most. For many people
it is the hand on the chest.
Continue
breathing deeply. Concentrate on moving the hand on your abdomen more than the hand on your chest.Continue this for 5 or 10 minutes. This is a way to learn abdominal breathing and to learn to breathe yourself into
relaxation.
There
are many books and tapes on relaxation and breathing. One of the best things you can do for yourself is to begin to develop
your relaxation skills.
Meditation
You have meditated. You just do not know it. However, when the word is used
you may think of saffron robes and bearded gentlemen in contorted positions. If so that is too bad. Meditation is simply putting
your mind at ease by using special methods of attention. It is a skill and is tied to no particular religious point of view.
And it is a skill that can be learned.
While many
viewed meditation as an activity for kooks, Dr. Hebert Benson, a cardiologist at Harvard Medical School and Deaconess Hospital in Boston, decided to study it systematically. As a result of his research, meditation
has enjoyed widespread acceptance in the west. School teachers meditate, CEOs meditate, and people concerned about stress
are making meditation a part of their lives.
Meditation
allows you to develop greater control over your thoughts, worries and anxiety. Americans like to stay busy and judge everything
by the numbers. If we are not running from event to event we feel guilty. Meditation requires pausing for at least a brief
time each day. It involves sitting still and focusing your attention on what happens when you are sitting still. For a little
while each day you live in the present and not the past or the future.
The best introduction to meditation is meditative breathing since breathing properly is the key to relaxing.
Try these steps:
Put on comfortable
loose clothing. Sit down on the floor in a comfortable position. Cross your legs in a comfortable way. Or, if you prefer, sit in a chair with good back support. Scan your body for
tension. As you notice any tension just imagine it is draining away and being replaced by relaxation.
Just begin to breathe through your nostrils in a relaxed
way. Breathe from your abdomen. Some people imagine a balloon just under their belly button that inflates and then deflates.
As you inhale count one. Exhale slowly. Then on the next inhale count two. County silently
to yourself up to ten.
If you
find distracting thoughts just return to the count.
Keep the focus on your breathing, attending to each
inbreath for its full duration and each outbreath for its full duration,
as if you were riding the waves of your own breathing.
Every time you notice that your
mind has wandered off the breath, notice what it was that took you away and then gently bring your attention back to your
belly and the feeling of the breath coming in and out.
If your mind wanders away from the breath a thousand times, then your "job"
is simply to bring it back to the breath every time, no matter what it becomes preoccupied with.
Become
aware of your thoughts and feelings at these moments, just observing them without judging them or yourself.
At
the same time be aware of any changes in the way you are seeing things and feeling about yourself.
After
you have completed the count to ten you can add a word like ONE or CALM or AMEN as you exhale.
Keep
going for about 15 minutes.
Once you have tried this exercise, you have given yourself
a taste of meditation. It is a skill you can continue to learn about for the rest of your life.
Another
aspect of meditation is called mindfulness. Mindfulness means focusing on what you are doing right now. One way to learn more
about mindfulness is to focus on the experience of eating a favorite fruit. Many people use an orange cut into wedges for
this exercise. Others people prefer to use a mango or even raisins. Pick a favorite fruit and then try this exercise:
Take a few deep breaths and relax your body.
Scan
your body and release tensions.
Let go of the past and the future, and bring your attention
to the present moment.
Let
your attitude be open and receptive.
Take a moment to appreciate where the orange (mango,
or raisin) came from; look carefully at its color, texture, shape.
Notice the aroma.
See,
as if for the first time, how it is formed.
Eat one section of orange, piece of mango or raisin at a time, very slowly, as if you had never
tasted this fruit before.
How do you chew? On one side of your mouth, the
other, or both? How many times do you chew before swallowing? Slow down if you start to hurry.
Whenever
you notice any distraction from the moment-to-moment experience of eating, stop, take a deep breath, and then continue.
Allow
feelings of enjoyment to arise as you experience the pleasure of eating mindfully.
This
is just an exercise but it shows you what the experience of eating is like when you attend completely to what you are doing.
Try to do the breathing meditation for 10 to 15 minutes a day. Repeat the mindful
eating exercise during at least one quiet meal time each day. You have begun to learn meditation.
Auto-hypnosis
There is a lot of hype about hypnosis. Hollywood has taken license to dramatize it. Hypnosis is simply a state of consciousness between being asleep
and being awake during which you can do a number of things that can help reduce stress. We should begin by ridding ourselves
of some myths about a hypnotic trance:
You slip in and out of a hypnotic trance all the time. Have you ever been driving
and arrive at your destination only to realize you do not remember the drive? You slipped into a trance. Do you ever daydream
and simply get lost in thought? You were in a trance. Have you been in a movie and get so engrossed you were oblivious to
what went on around you? You hypnotized yourself.
There
are many audio tapes and CDs that you can purchase at any book or tape shop to learn the art of self-hypnosis. If you want
to learn more about hypnosis give one a try.
Exercise
and yoga
When
you exercise you produce endorphins, morphine like chemicals, that produces feelings of well-being and calm. By getting active
you use the body’s natural fight or flight response, rather than suppress it, so you feel better. Research reveals the
value of exercise in reducing stress. For example:
Fifteen minutes of walking (as to maintain a heart rate
of 100 beats per min) was found to be a more powerful muscle relaxant than was 400 mg meprobamate.
Five minutes of stepping
(30 steps per min) on a 20-inch bench was found to cause a 32% decline in leg-muscle tension one hour after exercise.
Exercise programs of
jogging, calisthenics, and aquatics have been found useful in reducing muscle tension in men aged 52 to 88.
Whatever specific exercises you choose you should
be able to answer yes to these questions:
Does it take an hour or less a day?
Is it possible
to do easily and well without a great deal of mental effort?
Can you do it
alone?
If
you persist in the activity will you improve yourself?
Can you do it without criticizing
yourself?
If
the answer to these questions is yes you can make it a habit or as one psychologist puts it, a positive addiction.
The best way to keep exercise going is to make some form of exercise part of
everyday. Make it as natural as eating or brushing your teeth. If you have to think and plan too much it becomes
easy to skip, delay, avoid or postpone exercising. Formulate a simple plan and then follow it. Many people set a time
each day to engage in some kind of physical activity. Remember walking can be an excellent activity. But from the beginning
you must find a way to enjoy the activity or find a way to reward yourself immediately afterwards. You will keep up
activity only if there are rewards. If it is all pain there will be no gain! Until you can maintain from the experience
of gain -- reward yourself.
Yoga is a stress relieving
activity that affects the mind as well as the body. Yoga uses a series of gentle fixed poses, stretches and breathing techniques
to relax the body and calm the mind. It is not necessary to attempt to perform some of the more advanced postures in order
to derive benefits. Yoga has been demonstrated to relieve muscle tension as well as help lower blood pressure and cholesterol
levels.
There are many different types of yoga. Hatha is probably the most frequently encountered type in the United
States. It focuses on meditation, breathing and slow focused stretches. Bikram
is the type often practiced in rooms with temperatures over 80º. Ashtanga is a very active
form of yoga involving a fairly rapid pace as participants move from one pose to another. Yoga Fit© is a new take on
yoga that combines traditional yoga poses with the use of light weights. Sport Yoga is a type of yoga which is easy for beginners.
It is based primarily on Hatha yoga but also includes some traditional sports stretching, some
pilates exercises and martial art warm-ups. It is more effective than regular sports stretching
because of its emphasis on structure and balance.
As
in any new endeavor, a beginner should be patient with themselves as they begin their yoga study. The use of props, such a
foam bricks and cloth straps, is recommended as it allows the novice yoga student to correctly approximate postures which
they may not be able to do because of tight muscles. Over time a student will gradually become more flexible and able to do
more and more. Physical and emotional benefits are available to all participants.
As you take class, select postures you enjoy for practice at home; if you completely understand
the proper way to do some of the more difficult postures you can also work on those at home. Balance postures, like the tree
asana, may be practiced with your back against a wall (at home) allowing you learn what the pose feels like and gain skill
so the pose will be easier when performed in class without a prop. .
Massage
Psychologist Sidney Jovrard studied the number of times men and women touched in cafes in
different countries. In San Juan, Puerto Rico he counted 180 contacts per hour. In Paris the rates were 110 per hour. In Gainesville, Florida twosomes touched only twice per hour and in London the count was zero! And yet touching seems to help reduce stress. For example, a massage by a professional or
by a loved one can be excellent.
Today
you can get a massage about as easy as a haircut. There are a number of approaches:
Acupressure
Swedish massage
Reflexology
Shiatsu
Chiropractic
All these approaches have their origins in
early medicine and healing arts. If you have money to spend you can find an expert near you and set up an appointment. If
you prefer you can ask a partner to give you a back rub or you can do it yourself.
There are specialty stores that sell a variety of devices from
vibrating chairs to simple hand held vibrators. These devices can help relieve the tension at the end of a tough day. However,
a good friend can be of great help. Just be sure to offer to reciprocate. This is the way to get started:
Use warm oil or body lotion for even greater relaxation
Lower the lights and put on some soothing music
Focus on the lower back, neck and shoulders
Start with light pressure, increase the pressure then
end with light pressure again
The best way for your partner to learn is to do it. Give them feedback about what works and what
does not. Make massage part of your stress management program.
Vacation
Vacations are great.
Two weeks away from the office makes you feel good and the tension is gone while you are away. However, by 2:00 PM on the Monday after you return you are tied in knots again and now you
have to wait for a year for another vacation. As a way to reduce stress you are far better off to take a number of mini-vacations
throughout the year than to depend on just one. Furthermore, it is better to take them before the level of stress builds rather
than use them for stress relief when overwhelmed.
Start
a mini-vacation notebook. Study a map of your area, go to a book store and get books on the attractions in your area, make
a list of the things you really like to do that take hours, rather than days, and put those in your notebook. . Keep an eye
on the articles in your newspaper about things worth doing and seeing. Put those in your notebook too.
What are the natural world attractions in your area? Where are the parks? Look
for water, as water seems to be natural way for use to relax. It can be a creek, a lake, a bay, a gulf or an ocean. Plan to
walk beside it, sit beside it, picnic beside it or even jump in it.
Here are some things to try:
Visit a small nearby town you have never seen. Get out and walk around.
Check into a nice hotel nearby for a night
Find a great place and go for a hike
Get a bike and ride it
Find and stay in a county inn
Go to a botanical garden
Visit historic sites nearby
Find a vineyard and visit it
Locate mansions nearby and visit them
The list could go on and on. The best vacations from
stress are frequent breaks in your routine. Plan for them. Take that two weeks but don’t put all your stress reduction
eggs in that one basket.
Natural Environment
Our great-great grandparents were able to
look at natural scenes and not parking lots, buildings and brick walls. Research has shown that patients have better
recovery from surgery when they have hospital windows with scenes of nature rather than brick walls. We should treat
ourselves to feasts like watching the clouds in the sky, or the surface of a tranquil lake or watching birds nesting.
Pictures of ponds, streams and trees produce lower levels of arousal and higher alpha waves, brain waves associated with wakeful
relaxation.
Researchers
have found that even watching aquariums can lower blood pressure and produce a state of calm relaxation. Learn to look
for and dwell upon the natural scenes in your environment. Stop by a park and walk or ride through. Let your eyes, ears,
and nose soak in the pleasant scenes that are already part of your everyday world. Stop and look.
The lonely view of a mountain with snowy crests
stretching upward into the sky or the blue green white capped waves at the beach and the roar of those waves as they crash
onto the shore can be restorative. We seem attracted to the sound of a river as it flows. For thousand upon
thousands of years these were a part of daily life. Now instead of the sounds of the wind we hear the sounds of auto horns.
Instead of the colors of a forest we are bombarded with the blacks and grays of asphalt and cement. We are more likely
to smell petroleum waste than the intoxicating aroma of evergreen.
Find time for nature. It can help you cope with stress.
Time management
To
manage stress you need to manage yourself in the context of time. While no one would say it out loud, in many organizations
time is treated as an unlimited or renewable resource. However, there is only so much time in each life, each year, each month,
each week, each day, each hour, and each minute. And once it is gone, there is no getting it back. In order to make your workday
more efficient, you need to identify the top time-killers in your day and how to eliminate them.
Some of the biggest time killers are:
Poor communication
Confused responsibility
Meetings
Crisis management
Interruptions
Poor
planning.
Traditional
time management gives too great an emphasis to working life and too little emphasis to a balanced life with family and to
restorative activity (e.g. recreation). The old methods can lead you to the delusion that you are in control of your life
when in reality you are not. Purpose, principles and values should be used to align weekly and daily priorities. Traditional
approaches to prioritizing tend to lead to crisis management because it is based more on urgency than on what is vital. People
and relationships are taken out of the equation and turned into objects and barriers. It often leads to a guilt trip and that
in turn leads to abandonment of the time management effort. In a nutshell, the old time management adds to stress; it does
not reduce it.
To cope with stress you must become
a master of timing. You should:
Know
in every hour of the day the use you would like to make of time.
Know your weaknesses (e.g. procrastination), as well as your strengths, and
learns ways to overcome weaknesses.
Conduct ongoing evaluations, whether formal or informal, as to how you spend your time.
View time as a whole and keep professional and personal
routines in balance and consistent with life goals and personal values.
Use any and all memory and performance aids (e.g. Daytimers,
reminders, project software) that can enable you to engage in preferred actions at just the right time.
Make use of time in relation to a clear set of goals
that represent a balance between what is expected by others (e.g. the boss) and what is desired for you and your family.
Use time for play as well as work, taking breaks during
episodes of intense work and employ effective methods for reducing tension.
At the end of each day you should be able to say…”the way I spent
my time was a reflection of my personal values and philosophy of life.”
Develop a very personal statement entitled, ‘My Purposes in Life’.
To keep you do so, ask yourself these questions and write out your answers on cards or paper:
What are the five most important things in your life?
How would you spend
this week if you had only six months to live?
What are the most important relationships in your life and what must you do to cultivate those relationships?
What are your long-range
goals in life in these areas: family, career and financial?
What would you like to see written as your epitaph?
Take what you have written and create a purpose in life statement. Review it
before you set weekly and/or daily priorities. Make it a habit. Never prioritize without reviewing it. It will help keep your
life in balance. More balance means a reduction in stress.
Making time for joy
We are built to gain important information and to learn important lessons from sensory events. We love
sweetness such as the taste of a peach or a mango. Once we have tasted it we will go back for more. On the other hand
our bodies are built such that the senses can also warn us about danger. A distinctive stench can warn us about spoiled
food. Bitterness can tell us that certain foods may harm us. Loud noises may warn us to avoid a falling tree.
A flash of pain leads us to recoil and thus avoid a serious burn. In short, we need not advocate mindless hedonism in
order to ackmowledge that we are built to seek certain joys and avoid pain. We need a balance
in the direction of joys in order to reduce stress. Many of us have fallen out of balance. We need more joy in our lives.
The belief that saunas are good for your health
may have merit. Following a sauna, electrical discharges in muscles show a more relaxed pattern. In addition, saunas
can also decrease pain in muscles and joints. One study revealed that 30 minutes in a sauna doubles the beta-endorphin level
in the blood. Beta-endorphins are chemicals in the brain that relieve pain and produce a sense of well being. The heat
may deplete the body's stores of stress hormones. After a sauna people show more brain waves related to deeper more
restful sleep. If you do not have a sauna, many of the same benefits can be obtained by taking a very hot bath.
It is a simple joy that can have multiple benefits.
To the ancient Greeks, Apollo was the god of both medicine and music. Early physicians used
music to regulate heartbeats and music and singing were used to cure many ailments. At least part of the joy of music may
come from the release of endorphins. When an experimental drug that blocks the return of those chemicals is used, the
joyful experience of music is blunted.
Music is a part of all our lives whether your preference is jazz, gospel, pop, rock or Beethoven and Bach.
Music is a mood mover. High-pitched music is experienced as happy and playful. Low-pitched music is experienced as sad
and serious. The faster the beat the more the music heightens alertness and arousal. Slow music lowers the body's
response to stress. Music influences respiration rate, blood pressure, stomach contractions and levels of stress hormones
in the blood stream. Our hearts beat at 70 to 80 times per minute. Most western music is set to this tempo. Research
has shown that heart rate will synchronize with music and music alters the brain's electrical rhythms. It is well
worth the effort to make music more a part of our lives. Try different types of music and evaluate the degree to which
the music serves to relax you. Remember mood matching may be the way to begin. If you are tense you may wish to
start out with music that matches your tension and then gradually move to more soothing and relaxing sounds.
We eat not only to stay alive but also for
the social and emotional pleasures eating brings us. Our emotional connections to food are one of the many reasons that following
a weight loss diet is so difficult. It is very likely that our "sweet tooth" evolved to guide our ancestors
toward ripe fruits, ready sources of energy and certain essential vitamins. The taste for sweet and fat in foods served
our ancestors well making foods rich in calories attractive and allowing them to store fat for burning in times of famine.
Fortunately for our ancestors, there were no pizza parlors, hamburger joints and ice cream shops on each corner in the forest
or jungle of long ago. While our great grandparents survived on grains, fruits and vegetables we have the choice of
daily feasting on fats and sugars. We must learn to eat wisely while maintaining the joy food brings us.
People seem to love variety and crave different
taste sensations. Diets that are weak in flavor and variety of texture tend to fail because they fail to bring joy.
Enhanced flavors and a wide variety of foods is recommended. Spicier foods, for example, not only may be pleasurable,
there is also evidence such foods burn more calories.
You like chili peppers so much they must be bad for you, right? Wrong! The hot cuisine
of Szechwan, India, Thailand, Mexico and the American Southwest may be a joy you should seek.
Chili pepper may very well lower your cholesterol levels and there is evidence such peppers may help prevent blood clots.
You can increase joys and reduce your waistline
by slowing down to enjoy your food while you are eating. Savor every bite. Be mindful of what you are eating,
bite-by-bite, rather
than wolfing down the meal. Since much of the flavor of food comes from odor you will find that slowly and thoroughly
chewing your food not only breaks it down but creates air currents that carry the aroma of foods to olfactory receptors. Turn
eating into a joy.
Carbohydrates
are a natural stress food. They raise the brain levels of tryptophan, a building block of
the calming chemical serotonin. A small carbohydrate snack can make you feel calmer and relaxed during a trying afternoon.
Proteins seem to provide for alertness. It adds stimulation but it may also increase levels of stress. Carbohydrates
may also be useful at the end of the day to set the stage for a good night's sleep.
Studies of Laboratory animals and humans show that generous doses
of garlic can reduce dangerous LDL cholesterol levels while increasing the heart saving good HDL cholesterol. Other
evidence suggests garlic may boost immune functions and may even provide some protection against cancer. So whether
you like pepper and/or garlic you can clearly enjoy the simple joys of food without loss of health.
In your time mastery program include approaches with these joys
to reduce stress:
Walking
barefoot at dawn in a dew-covered meadow.
Taking
a child to a circus or sporting event.
Catching
rainwater in your mouth.
Taking
a long leisurely bubble bath.
Building
a snowman.
Drinking hot chocolate
on a cold winter's night.
Visiting
the newborn babies' window on a maternity ward.
Listening to a kitten purr.
Sitting in front of a fireplace on a cold night.
Listening to a bowl of Rice Krispies.
Attending to the gentle sound of wind chimes.
Singing a Christmas Carol.
Collecting seashells.
Whistling your favorite tune.
Having a water pistol fight.
Dancing.
Making
a baby giggle.
Feeding milk to
a stray kitten.
Watching the
full moon rise.
Listening to
the rain fall.
Licking the middle
out of an Oreo cookie.
Waking
up to the sound of birds singing.
Walking
along the beach at sunset.
Start your own list of the joys that mean the most to you. Get a notebook and carry it for
a week. Jot down the activities as the come to mind. Then make an appointment with yourself to recharge your batteries.
Perhaps it is as simple as this: Joy recharges
our batteries and prepares us to cope more effectively with the stresses of daily life. Seek joy. Find it. Relive stress.
PICKING THE PROGRAM FOR YOU
Stress is a significant factor in contemporary life. Many types of programs
have been developed in response to this need. The following list is but a sampling of the many, many alternatives available
to individuals, groups and businesses interested in dealing with this important issue.
Stress Education Center
Stress Education Center offers a variety of stress management tools and techniques.
Their Stress Management Solutions for Individuals
include Tapes/CDs, MyBooks, Classes and Trainings. Relaxation Audio Cassettes/CDs are offered
for Basic Progressive Relaxation; Basic Autogenic Training, learning to use especially formulated phrases to control your
stress response; Ten to One Countdown, a technique to control muscle tensions, like tension headache, jaw pain, neck/shoulder
pain, sleep disturbance; Visualization for Deep Relaxation, how to use positive mental images to enhance the body’s
natural healing. The audio tapes are sold for $11.95 each plus $1 per tape for shipping and handling; $13.95 for each CD plus
shipping and handling. A set of the first three tapes sell for $32 plus $4 for shipping. All four
CDs sell for $50 plus $4 shipping. California residents
must pay 7.50% state sales tax.
They also sell tapes
and CDs for Prenatal Stress; Stress Management for Chronic Pain; Stress Management for High Blood Pressure; Stress Management
for Sleep; Panic/Anxiety Control (CD only); Stress Management for Headache Control (CD Only); Stress Management for G.I. Disorders
(CD Only); Healing with Imagery (CD Only); Pre-Post Surgical Stress Management Program (CD Only). This
second group sell for $13.95 for tapes and $15.95 for CDs. Purchase of two or more reduces the price to $13 for tapes
and $15 for CDs as an internet special. $1 per tape/CD is required for shipping and California residents must pay the 7.50% state sales tax.
Stress Education Center also offers business stress management tapes/CDs: Ten Minute Stress Management for Work, with
practice this relaxation approach can be done in only a few minutes, without the tape in all but the most difficult situations;
Commuter Stress Management, this product helps the driver maintain driving vigilance while being helped to focus on relaxing,
positive thought; Time Management & Stress, provides basic information to organize yourself and set priorities; Overwhelmed?
Reboot Now! (CD only), provides two especially designed guided relaxation techniques to help control work related stress.
These products cost $11.95 for tapes, $13.95 for CDs if bought separately plus $1 per tape/CD. A set of three business related
tapes are combined for an Internet special of $32 ($38 for CDs) plus $3 for shipping. California residents must pay 7.50% in sales tax.
It
is recommended that you should allow 4-6 weeks of regular use to determine whether the program has benefit for you. Eight
to 12 weeks of regular use, or longer, is recommended for best results.
Stress Education Center’s web site is located at http://www.dstress.com/tapes.htm for more detailed information about these products and ordering information.
Stress Education Center also offers a Stress
Management Online Course. Each program is unique and specifically designed for the participant. Each program contains 3 stress
surveys; combined powerful approaches for managing stress; 5 audio tapes or CDs that give instruction in proven stress management
techniques; a biofeedback monitor to measure your success; exercises to help you at work; email feedback from the instructor
and additional tape selected just for you; a signed copy of Dr. L. John Mason, Ph.D.’s book “Guide to Stress Reduction”
(New Edition). The program cost $195 with reduced rates for multiple registrations. There is a 100% money back guarantee.
More information and ordering information may be obtained at http://www.dstress.com/callinter.htm.
Stress Education
Center’s
Stress Management Programs -Training in a Resort/Spa Environment
Some of Stress Education Center’s Stress Management programs are offered in Sonoma County’s Wine Country.
The training is advertised as taking place in a resort/spa environment. Training includes stress management, guided relaxation,
work/life balance, enhancing performance, wellness through nutrition and exercise, massage and spa treatments (as available),
tapes or CDs to take home, and assessments aimed at creating awareness and developing a continuous lifelong learning plan.
Communication or Time Management Skills are available.
Most programs are offered at preferred Sonoma
County properties which offer wonderful ambiance,
massage/spa facilities, great food and access to the coastline, the Redwoods and the Wine Country. It is described as the
ultimate relaxation experience. Prices vary based on services rendered and retreat facility selected. The length of say and
amount of training per visit will affect the price. Most executives who receive this coaching report they save time and increase
personal productivity in addition to having their quality of life enhanced.
A customized Executive Coaching program can be developed as a follow through based on the principles. An additional
monthly fee would be required based on the services provided.
For
more information about these programs or his many other offerings, check L. John Mason, Ph.D.’s web site at http://www.dstress.com/sonomacounty.html .
Mind Tools
Mind Tools states that since 1999 they have helped improve and advance the careers
of more than 8,500,000 visitors and invites you to join them. They go on to state that 500,000 people a year learn how to
master stress using their Mind Tools. Their goal is to give you simple but effective relaxation techniques for you to use
to tackle stress as well as essential skills to stress-proof you life.
Their products deal primarily with workplace stress, although there is a great deal of information about relaxation
strategies and useful links for purchasing materials. There are two major Mind Tools products offered. The first is an e-book
version of all the tools found on the Mind Tool site which can be downloaded as an Adobe Acrobat PDF file. These tools include
more than 100 thinking skills divided into nine essential areas, one being stress management. They are located in a commercial
web site format online but in an easier to use PDF format for offline use or printing. It is possible to read these materials
online and down load those that interest you the most. It costs $4.99 to download each section, or $19.95 to download the
entire set of tools.
There second major offering
is their Stress Management Masterclass which is also offered both online in a commercial format
or downloaded in Adobe Acrobat PDF format. The materials are free except for a nominal fee for downloading of $19.95 for the
180 page Stress Management Masterclass manual. All these materials have a 30 day money back guarantee.
Some of the stress management tools offered include: a Stress Diary to use to
identify short-term stress in your life; Physical Relaxation Techniques; a Burnout Self-Test; Thought Awareness, Rational
Thinking and Positive Thinking guidance; Imagery, mental stress management; Rest, Relaxation and Sleep, starting to manage
long term stress.
The Stress Management Masterclass
is divided into modules: Understanding Stress, Pin-Point the Sources of Stress in Your Life; Cope with Work Overload; Survive
Problem Jobs; Work Successfully with Powerful People; Reduce Co-Worker and Team Stress; Manage Performance Stress and Learn
Relaxation Techniques; Reduce Stress with Rational Thinking; Build Defenses Against Stress; and Avoid or Recover from Burnout.
This program helps you manage intense stress, learn to identify and resolve sources of stress in your life, deal with stress
coming from other people, works on eliminates negative thinking and helps you find job satisfaction. . A side effect of these
modules is that you will learn to be more effective and productive at work and these are the skills that will enhance your
career.
In summary the Mind Tools site is an excellent
site for information to reduce both professional and personal stress. The Mind Tools website is located at http://www.mindtools.com .
The Journey to the
Wild Divine: The Passage.
This is first in
a series of “Inner-Active” computer adventures that use biofeedback to create a truly enlightening experience
for the mind and body. The program uses the power of your thoughts, feeling, breath and awareness to promote mind/body health
in an effort to achieve an ability to achieve deeper meditation, to reduce stress and anxiety, to enhance creativity and intuition
and to improve mental and physical performance.
The
Journey to the Wild Divine: The Passage uses biofeedback to teach users how to alter their brain activity, blood pressure,
muscle tension, heart rate and other critical bodily functions. Skin conductance and heart rate are monitored through sensors
gently attached to player’s fingers. Information is fed back to players as events on the computer screen. By increasing
or decreasing or synchronizing body rhythms through techniques the characters teach a player they learn to master events and
advance in the game. The knowledge learned is supposed to help enhance personal growth and well-being.
The game includes biofeedback hardware, CDROM software for PC and Mac, a Companion
Guide, a User’s manual, and bonus “soul Flight” music CD. The cost is $159.95 and there is a coupon on the
site for free shipping in the U.S. The Journey to
the Wild Divine: The Passage may be purchased at http://www.wilddivine.com. This site provides a great deal of information about this product if you think that you might be interested in it.
The Option Institute: International Learning and Training Center-Residential
Programs
The Option Institute, based in Sheffield, Massachusetts, was established in 1983 by founders/directors Barry Neil Kaufman and Samahria
Lyte Kaufman. Since 1972 the Kaufmans have been teaching the Option
Process® a powerful method of uncovering and changing limiting and self-defeating beliefs.
The Options Institute offers several residential stress management programs.
Their program is supposed to uncover and possibly remove the root causes of your stress which is usually the result of a particular
set of beliefs or ways of thinking. They attempt to change the way you perceive other people and events in your life and to
move beyond stress by uncovering and discarding the perceptions and thinking modes that got you there in the first place.
The institute is located on a beautiful 95-acre campus
in the Berkshire Mountains of western Massachusetts. The campus offers trail hikes, waterfalls, woodlands, etc. There is also a complete spectrum of
fitness equipment in their fitness facility on campus. In addition to the beautiful setting and New England country charm, the surrounding area is said to have both year-round
recreational seasonal sports opportunities as well as summer cultural opportunities, such as theatre, dance, and music, including
Tanglewood, the summer home of the Boston Symphony Orchestra. Lots of shops, galleries, and antique
shops are nearby.
Housing is in comfortable, modern
guest houses; two people (occasionally 3) to a room are standard. Bathrooms are located in the hall. Many units contain kitchens.
There is also a selection of larger rooms with baths in a new residence. A few single private rooms, with and without baths
are available for an extra fee. Three delicious healthy, mostly vegetarian, meals are served a day.
Their Revitalize Your Spirit program is designed to give you the tools to find
a sense of peace, an oasis of calm and a different way to be effective. The program is conducted at the Option Institute as
a group retreat limited to 25 people. All attendees are provided private time with a certified Option Process Mentor/Counselor.
Attendees learn to Stop Cracking the Whip-or how to eliminate “shoulds” and self-judgments that generate feeling
of pressure. Attendees also learn how to De-Magnetize themselves and stop attracting stressful situations and unsupportive
people. Tuition for this 6 day retreat is $1,795 which includes meals and lodging.
A second program offered is the Inward Bound Program/Seminar, a weeklong program/seminar. The
Inward Bound Program/Seminar is a self-reflective, contemplative journey to enable you to find your own personal life mission.
The Kaufmans feel that stress occurs when you live other people’s missions. The goal of
this program is to help you stop living other people’s goals and begin living your own. Participants discover who they
really are and quit stressing out about the near or distant future. Tuition is $1,795 and includes meals and lodging.
They also offer their signature program, Living The Dream which is a 4 and 8
week training program. This is marketed as a total life makeover program. How does this relate to stress management? They
believe that stress is relate to our whole network of beliefs and perspectives and this program allows you to take the time
to look at every place that stress interacts with your life. This will probably be the last year for this program. The 4-week
course is $6,300 and the 8-week course, $11,400. Both tuition amounts include room and board.
For more information about these programs and about The Option Institute in general visit their
web site at http://www.option.org/stress_programs.html Recent information on the site indicates that they are reconfiguring programs and will keep interested
parties advised as what’s in store for 2005.
STAGES OF CHANGE AND STRESS
Challenge
Changing the way
you manage stress usually begins with a challenge to your old ways of doing things. Perhaps you become overwhelmed with a
presentation at work and you blow it. Perhaps your doctor says these illnesses you have been having are because of overwork.
Perhaps you have a heart attack. There is usually some signal that stress is becoming a major factor in your life and you
need to change.
Awareness
In the awareness stage you begin to learn more about stress and its impact on
your health and performance. Reading this is just such a step. Perhaps you go to a seminar or buy a book on the subject. This
stage is very important. The more you learn about your body and mind when you are under stress, the better you can guide your
own process of change. Take the challenge and change.
Preparation
Make a list of the things you need to do to get ready for making changes. Perhaps
you need to buy a cassette tape or CD with relaxation exercises on it. You may need to study your schedule to see if you need
to make changes to ready yourself for a more balanced lifestyle. You may need to obtain a personal organizer or a digital
assistant.
Action
As with other lifestyle change programs you should set a date to start your
new program. Since there are more dimensions of change with stress you may set a series of dates. You might start with doing
daily relaxation and then a week later begin a thought diary to change thinking patterns. Keep records of your changes even
if only in a diary form. Such records help if you lapse to get back on track.
Maintaining your gains
Keep
in mind change is like a spiraling road to the top of a mountain and not a steep trip straight up. You may lapse but just
get back on track as soon as you can do so. Even if you feel discouraged, get back in the spirit and move on.
CREATING A PRESCRIPTION FOR YOU
The best prescription for reducing stress is one created by you based on your
growing knowledge of stress. You should begin by setting prescriptive goals such as the following:
I will add humor to my life each and every day.
I will begin to challenge and correct my faulty thinking
patterns
I will have relaxation
breaks throughout the day each day.
I
will learn meditation and spend 15 to 30 minutes a day in meditation
I will start a daily exercise program doing something I will enjoy
I will schedule at least one mini-vacation each week
I will find time to spend in the natural world at least
three times a week
I will re-organize
my time management to become a timing master
This is a bare minimum prescription, so if you would like to be more ambitious you are welcome
to do so. You might want to start a new goal or two each week for three or four weeks.
MAKING A COMMITTMENT
Do
not keep you plans a secret. Find at least one person who cares about you, such as a good friend, a sibling or a spouse, and
share both your goals and how you will try to achieve those goals. While it may seem silly at first, write out a contract
with your goals spelled out and any deadlines specified. You sign and then have your partners in change also sign. Make copies
and carry one copy with you in your calendar or organizer. Post a copy on your refrigerator. Keep one in the car.
If you change your goals or the methods you plan to use, redo the contract,
sign the new version and put it in places where you will be reminded of your program for change.
STARTING YOUR CHANGES AND TRACKING PROGRESS
Start a diary in which you record two aspects of your stress reduction program.
Set up the pages so that after the first page as you open up the diary humor is on the left page and thinking is on the right.
Put the date in the top center of each page. Put ‘Humor’ or put ‘Thinking’ on the appropriate page.
During the day or at the end of the day make a list of the opportunities for humor that you either create or to which you
respond with humor. On the right page make notes about when you use stress escalating thoughts like catastrophizing,
filtering, overgeneralization, polarized thinking and other examples of negative thinking. Write down the time, the place,
the preceding event, the thoughts you had and the potential negative consequences of the thoughts. Keep the diary for two
to four weeks. You will be amazed at how much you learn.
If
you use an organizer system like Day Runner, Day Timer OR A Palm Organizer you can use that system for scheduling and recording.
If you do not use one of those systems you may find becoming a time master more difficult. So go to an office supply store
and look over the systems. You must begin by placing your life goals and your goals for the stress program in a prominent
place so that as you schedule events and set priorities you can refer to them. Then not only enable your business schedule
in the calendar but also the planned events in your stress program. Schedule times for these:
When
you complete the activity scratch it from your list just like a business appointment completed. By integrating your stress
program into your time management you are much more likely to succeed.
MAINTAINING THE GAINS YOU MAKE
Once you start your stress reduction program you can maintain your gains if you remember that you have to
get back on the horse if you fall off. Make reminders and posters for yourself with the reasons why stress reduction will
pay for you. Write down a list of the top ten reasons for keeping work going on managing stress. The big two reasons are:
Better health
Better performance
Keep those in mind when the going gets rough. Many people find it easier to
maintain their progress by starting with time mastery. Then they fit the elements of their program into that personal development
project.
Recommended Reading and Bibliography
Benson, H. (1976) The Relaxation Response.
New York: Harper Torch.
Carlson, R. (1997) Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff and Its All Small Stuff.
New York: Hyperion.
Cartwright, S. & Cooper. E.L. (1997) Managing Workplace Stress. Sage Publications: Thousand
Oaks.
Charlesworth, E.A. (1991) Stress Management: A Comprehensive Guide to
Wellness. Ballantine Books.
Covey, S.R., Merrill, A.R. & Merrill, P.R. (1995) First
Things First. New York: Fireside.
Davis, M., Eshelman, E.R. & McKay, M. (2000) The
Relaxation and Stress Reduction Workbook. New Harbiner Publications.
Harvey, J.R. (1998) Total Relaxation. New York: Kodansha International.
Kabat-Zinn,
J. (1990) Full Catastrophe Living. Delta.
Kabot-Zinn, J. (1995) Wherever
You Go, There You Are. New York: Hyperion.
Loehn, J. &
Schwartz, T. (2003) The Power of Full Engagement. Free Press.
Reivich, K.
& Shatte, A. (2002) The Resilence
Factor. New York: Broadway Books.
Sapolsky, R.M.
(1994) Why Zebras Don’t Get Ulcers: A Guide to Stress, Stress-Related Diseases and Coping. New York: Freeman and Company.
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